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A real life experience of a client and a coach
By admin | October 19, 2007
Many people who do not know what life coaching is, now has a chance to read a real life experience of a client and a coach. All clients and coaches’ sessions are confidential unless permission is granted for us to share. I am grateful and thankful that this client of mine share most of the values of coaching with me, I had her permission to share our experience in my blog. We believe in sharing for the intention of helping others especially when life coaching is very new to many people and often mistaken for counselling; For people to know more about what life coaching could do for them; For aspiring coaches to have an idea of how fulfilling and meaningful this profession can be.
This is a case where my client has come to realised that living her A to H values in her life and sharing them in her book could help and give hope to people. People who faced similar challenges, could find their purpose in life and empowered to triumph over obstacles.
One of my clients, a Human Resource Director wrote and published a book “Possibilities Abound” launched on June 10 2007 to cherish the memories of her late busband. On 5 August 2006, she was given my number to call to ask about Coaching . I have not met her before. We spoke briefly and I proposed that we meet so that I could give her a no-obligation session and have a personal experience of what is coaching, how does it work and background of myself. After which she could then decide whether the Coaching series is for her. Just speaking to her at that time, I sensed her anger and frustration. I was mindful that she need to know that coaching is not counselling. She shared with me the sudden demise of her late husband on June 10 2006. It was the most unexpected sudden fateful day that rocked her world. I can’t say that I know how she felt for I really don’t know. I could only empathised with her ‘overturn overnite’ situation. In her own words - she said she had a ’pampered life’.
After our trial session on August 12, 2006 she made a decision to take up the coaching series with me. It is the “decision you make that determines your destiny”. It was a revelation to me as a Coach during the sessions that we had, to reflect upon how coaching could empower a woman in this situation. In her book on “Empowerment” you will take away this value and know that she truly has experienced self-empowerment. This life skill is the key to deal with future challenges and enable you to bounce back effortlessly. The essence of Coaching is self-empowerment.
Let me share with you how at that time I was not sure I would take her as my client. I had thought that she would need counselling with a support group rather than a Personal Coach. As a Professional Coach I seek for Senior Coaches’ feedback. The teleconference within my Results Community were mostly Australians and they have been most supportive, open and generous in their sharing of similar clients and potential clients in similar situations. There were different opinions on whether or not to take on clients in such situation. No book, nor anyone could decide for you except your heart. Listen to your heart. I have not met her and do not know her background prior to our meeting. We connected on a level where trust was present. In any coaching relationship between client and coach, ‘trust’ is important for it to work. It was the most rewarding exprience and empowering partnership. She not only became my client, she also took the Intensive coach training course that I went through back in 2002.
We went through the different areas of her life and came up with how she want her life to look like. We explored strategies and the actions she had to take. I remembered when one of her actions was to start driving, something she stopped about 20 years ago, the fun part would be ”when the rubber meets the road!” It was her conquering force that propels her to do things differently, take actions that she has not taken for a long time. In her own words, “I, who had been so pampered, could overcome the difficulties.” It was the A to H values that she was congruent in living. She was determined to share that with people to benefit and grow together.
I am so proud of her achievements! She is simply an amazing lady. If you get hold of her book titled “Possibilities Abound”, you would realise how courageous she is and how she had turned from her ‘overturn overnite’ situation to ‘possibilities abound’. Her husband passed on June 10, 2006 and she published her book and launched it on June 10, 2007. In her book, she shared how she pulled through with the support of her family, religion and life coaching. Her achievements in the absence of her husband - dear dear, whom she often refer to, is the true essence of purposeful living. These are her A to H values - A-Attitude; B-Belief; C-Communication; D-Decisiveness; E-Empowerment; F-Fun; G-Gratitude; H-Humility;
Right now in your life, what do you really, really want? Have you given a thought to how you want your life to look like? It is the belief, your habits and the patterns in your life that determines your destiny, not the conditions of your life that determines your destiny. It is also the decisions you make that determines your destiny. Don’t give up.
Life is about communications and relationships. With who? With yourself. How do you communicate with yourself? We talk to ourselves all the time. Do you agree? When you are thinking, you are talking to yourself. What is your relationship with yourself? Do you beat yourself up? Unconsciously we do , if we do that negatively, we are beating ourselves up. Catch yourself do that and write it down. Positively or negatively, write it down. Come back and share with me if you want to.
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