« What does your ‘Bucket List’ look like? | Main | The Secret »
How to be a Great Life Coach?
By admin | May 7, 2008
Coaching has been mistaken by many as mentoring and counselling. It is a real challenge to explain what is life coaching. Aspiring Coaches also want to know whether this is for them. If you don’t do it how would you know?I reckon that no one can explain what is coaching. It is like explaining how durian taste to a foreigner or anyone who have not tasted it? Or how to cycle? I think the latter is a better example.
A happier person
The most valuable lesson I learnt is “Who I become”. I realised that change is constant and by putting myself in this environment I continue my learning and evolve as a better person for myself. Sometimes when I attempt to explain why we need to love ourselves first, some understood it right away; Others say, “Isn’t this selfish?” Self centered? Well, if you don’t fill your own cup, and continue to fill others, you dry up. Nothing to give. My internal dialogue would be “God help those who help themselves.” In other words, when you live an inspiring life, others are inspired by your living. Teach less learn more. Women are brought up to nurture, protect and unconsciously forget about taking care of themselves. Our believes are so strong that we do not know how to let go.
Letting go
Letting go of the role of “mother”, “daughter”, “wife” is challenging especially if you have been playing that role for a long time. When we become overwhelmed, we become so attached to that role that we don’t know how to play other roles anymore. Playing other roles is like losing our “identity”. Whatever role you are playing today, ask yourself, is this who I am? If you are not happy, it may be time to discover a new you! We all have blind spots, letting go requires someone to show us what we need to let go.
Get a Life Coach to be a Great Coach
Write your ‘bucket list”! Get a Life Coach! A great Coach is one who is coachable. When you have a breakthrough working with a Coach you know what it takes to achieve from one level to the next. That is the transformational experience that empowers you to be a great Coach. When you step at the edge of the cliff not knowing what to expect and do it anyway, that is the risk that you take to get out of your comfort zone. That would be your first real stretch in working from inside out. That takes courage. A leap of faith. If you are one of those people who think a lot, you cannot possibly feel from your gut. It is no more secret or airy fairy or ‘new age’ . It is the real deal. Your perception is on a conscious level. We are conditioned by our upbringing, parents, teachers, government, religion, significant people - our environment. To uncondition and recondition to listen to your gut feeling is connecting to your authentic self. Our self confidence come from being our authentic self. We don’t have to be someone else. That is where great Coaches operate from.
One year down the road, where do you see yourself? If you have been thinking of doing some things for years and still thinking about it, have not done it, it is time to get a Life Coach. It is a transformational experience that you will treasure. When you begin to value yourself you will invest in yourself.
Stop doing the same thing over and over again. It’s insane. What can you now do the things that you have always wanted to do. Write a list. Get a buddy, or just do it! You don’t have to be perfect. Know of any perfectionist? Most of them are very stressed. Looking good is more important than being happy. Wherever you may be today, you may want to start loving yourself first. First thing is you are happier living your dreams. Does not have to be big dreams for a start. One step at a time.
Blockage
We may at times have blockage. Want to do something but don’t know when to start; How to start, inertia. Before we start, we already say, “what if it cannot work?” “What would people say?” “So challenging.” ; “Nobody do this kind of thing.” ; “It’s selfish.”; “Wait till I pay up all my mortgage.”; “Wait till I retire”; Wait till I have more time.” This self talk is also self sabotage. This ‘little voice’ in your head is holding you back from getting out of your comfort zone. This is the biggest blockage that we experienced. More often than you want to think otherwise. The most significant voice often comes from a defining moment when we were young. Find out what that is and break that pattern of thoughts. Replace it with empowering ones and see how your life becomes new possibilities.
No time
We will never have enough time. Time passes by, it’s May 2008 almost half a year gone! Did you ask yourself what have I achieved? “Did I achieve what I said I will do when I set my resolutions on January 2008? What happen to your resolutions?
What is your first next step?
Would you like to get a Coach to ask you better questions? Bring you to the next level in your life. Have a breakthrough? Double your income? Triple your happiness? Create the awareness in you to align your values. Bring out the best in you? Discover your purpose in life. Believe in you? Clear your blockages. Increase your self confidence and self esteem?
When you find that you on the journey to self leadership you are assured of being a great Coach.
Topics: Life Coaching |