Parent Teacher Meeting
By admin | May 29, 2009
I was so looking forward to the parent teacher meeting. I get to know in more detail of how the new way of teaching is about. When the Principal announced it in our Parent Support Group meeting, I was very happy. So they have introduced a new way of engaging the student.
I just attended the National Achievers’ Congress with Robert Kiyosaki’s entourage of Rich Dad Poor Dad speakers who specialised from Branding, Stocks, Commodity, Real Estate, Sales Partner, Heart Surgeon, Buddhist Teacher. There was T Harv Eker and Greg Secker.
All these Gurus advocate the real learning experience which is adapted from Cone of Learning from Dale, 1969. The illustration of the Cone was given to us from Rich Dad.
1) Doing the real thing
2) Simulating the real experience
3) Doing a dramatic presentation
4) Giving a Talk
5) Participating in a discussion
My daughter’s school has co-operative learning, Wow! that means getting the students to do presentation.
I have been in the Toastmasters Int’l movement for more than a decade and at last I get to see this form of learning in a neighbourhood school! I offered to give them my materials on how students can use the ‘GROW’ model to integrate into how they can use life skills to develop students holistically. To also find out how students learn and create a buddy system such that teachers can practise ‘Teach less learn more’.
Sounds like they are integrating the right brain and left brain and going into feeling! Time to celebrate!!
The social emotional learning is taking shape!
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Positive Thinking Positive Actions
By admin | May 20, 2009
Today is a good reflection of how far I have come from negative thinking to positive thinking and positive actions. I was coaching a client who is processing her breakdowns in a stuck state, the feeling of confusion whether the forward actions is going to create the result she wanted.
From negative to positive thinking
This reminded me of a time when I was in the same predicament. The positive thinking and the positive energy from a Coach is uplifting. She said, I wish the people out there could be as positive as you. The way they talked are “noise” that held me back from the decision that I have made. Now, I feel uncertain. We went through some powerful questions. She thought about her thinking and cleared up her doubts. She was sure of what making that decision would give her. More confidence, more time to have a balance life, better relationships with her children and more income!
Want breakthroughs, stay away from negative people
The breakthrough will come when she take the actions that were generated from that decision. We shall see in due course. I can definitely empathise with her predicament because of the negative environment she is in. “Noise” are unfounded fears from people who may mean well, thinking that they are protecting you; But they do not know what you really want. It’s based on their own pattern of thinking and their own fear which is projected onto you and is quite often negative. Unknowingly, they operate from fear.
How a Life Coach can help
A Life Coach can certainly help you with the breakthrough of thinking positive and taking actions that positively move you towards achieving the outcome you want. This is the support and encouragements that most people need to have a breakthrough. The positive energy is automatically transferred to you. The confidence comes from having experience that journey.
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Parenting Teens - Secrets to successful parent and teens relationships
By admin | May 17, 2009
Even as a Life Coach, I have my challenges with my three teens. Talking and having regular conversations is the key element for successful parenting. Just this morning when I had the same stuck state with my youngest daughter now 14. I tried to stay as calm as I can. I was grieving how I got into this stuck state. She seemed to be venting about how irritating I was. When I asked her what was the irritating part, she could not relate to the particular incidents.
She shared that when she talk to me, she felt that I thought it was a waste of time and walk away. It’s so interesting to hear how she perceive what I do. I walk away thinking she did not need an answer from me and also when I hear her tone of voice that sounded angry. I did not want to stay in that energy and get triggered into being angry myself. We talked about facial expressions and tone of voice.
She felt that she was not angry. So we had different perception and perspective. We were speaking our minds. Finally, what she wanted from me was to empathise by saying “Relax..relax, each time when she complain about something or is stressed.” All she wanted is for me to listen right through and comfort her! That was an insight, a reminder not to be upset by her tone of voice or venting. That was a mini-revelation.
I said to her that it is very important to keep having a dialogue like this so that we get to understand each other better. We do have ups and downs, and there is no warning. We talked a bit about my menopause and her hormones changes. The most important thing is to forgive and let go of our stories so that we don’t go into drama.
I told her that it is going to be like this, ups and downs and that’s how we change, grow, and by continuing to talk, have dialogues like this, that is the secret to successful parent and teens relationships.
she said, “There is no such thing as perfect parent.” I totally agreed with her. She added, “I just want you to be a normal parent.” I was wondering what is a normal parent. Then she said, “Just like when you are a principal, when you go home don’t become a principal, so strict with your children.” Ha! I got it. She said, “Don’t bring your coaching thing home.” We just don’t want to hear you coaching us. Thanks for reminding me!
The ending was sweet. She fried omelette for me. My feedback to her was that this small gesture showed that she cares for me and I am very grateful, I love it. Time to celebrate:)
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@Tweetup in Singapore
By admin | May 15, 2009
May 14 was the first @sgtweetup gathering that I went. It was held in Geek Terminal in market street, Singapore. I also invited Gary Goy the top 10 singapore tweeter. He was enjoying himself tweeting at the event.
After talking to several people, I got to understand twitting is therapeutic just like blogging. I stumbled onto twitter in March and got to meet many people from other countries twitting. Somehow I did not get into Singapore twitters. I was learning about this new social network.
No wonder I did not find myself speaking about common current events nor find the connection to twit. My friend Carl Griffiths organised @sgtweetup at Geek Terminal. It was great to meet people from all walks of life there. From that event, I went home to follow the Singapore tweeters and I realised there was one organised by Claudia which was the first one. Nice job. I also learnt a new word “prosumer” hope that is the right spelling. I thought we were all producers since I got into facebook. Cheers! to all tweeters:)
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How to find out your child’s Five Love Languages
By admin | May 15, 2009
These are the 5 love languages of teenagers written by Gary Chapman. Thanks to him that I became more observant of my teenagers’ behaviours.
- Affirmations
- Physical Touch
- Quality Time
- Acts of Service
- Gifts
Driving your children from one place to another is an act of service. A great opportunity to have a dialogue. Even if it is only for 10 minutes. You will be surprised that you understand your child better. No distraction unless you are listening to the radio. Switch it off and the silence is golden. I realised talking to my son in the car is most beneficial. Act of service seem to be his primary love language. He is happy when I give him a lift to his friend’s house. Drive him to school or buy food back for him. I can see his face light up, that is how I know. Observation. He observe my facial expression too. If I don’t say anything, some times, he will ask me, “What?” then I realised I was deep in thoughts!
When he asked what was my gathering about before I picked him up to collect a mouse he bought. I was more than happy to share because it was about the self development seminars I attended and made some very nice friends. We formed a group and continue to meet whenever some of them who live out of Singapore come to S’pore to attend another seminar. It’s like a Master mind group. If we don’t meet, we email as a group and update each other of our progress. Supportive and encouraging journey.
He got to understand my work with parents, teachers and students that has a contribution to his generation. His feedback was great! We got to talk about how the economic crisis had people who are not passionate about teaching got into teaching. It maybe frustrating for him to be taught by people who are not ready to teach but that is the reality of life that helps him understand life better. Acceptance of what is.
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Warriors called “Supremes”
By admin | May 14, 2009
Tonite is another of our gathering at Douglas’ house, one of the participants in Supremes. Supremes are a group of 20 participants who attended T Harv Eker’s Quantum Leap Seminars which span for one calendar year 2008. Quantum Leap is a list of program namely, Life Direction, Train the Trainer, Guerilla Business, Warrior Camp. ‘Making the Stage’ was sold at the end of the Quantum Leap program. 20 participants called ourselves “Supremes” were one of the three groups formed in Making the Stage.
19 of us met for the second time in Douglas house. We had food, drinks and healthy fruits. Sharon who attended the Private Circle Group was very generous, she shared her learnings with us. Thank you very much Sharon. It reminds me of Byron Katie’s teachings, it is always ‘you’. You create everything that you experience. Your business is a reflection of you, your life is a reflection of who you are.
Expectation and intention are two different things. Set intention to attract what you want. Release all expectation and accept what is. When you can create that space, the Universe hears you and you shall attract whatever you intend. The Definition of Success is subjective. Personally, I feel that whenever I am happy, feel at peace and calm, this is success to me. How many of you can feel like this all the time?
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An Evening with Hilda From The New Sun
By admin | May 14, 2009
I received this link from someone. http://hildacharlton.com/ I like these few lines, thought I share with you. “Liberation is to be free from the Earth, free from attachment to the Earth, free from reaction to the Earth. Someone yells at you and you’re calm inside. You do not react; therefore, the world cannot hold you. It’s as simple as that. It’s so simple. People have made it so complicated. “
I feel that this state of mind is like a little enlightenment. if someone yells, shout and react and I can feel good, feel calm and peaceful. It’s liberating too.
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Everyone needs a listening ear.
By admin | May 13, 2009
If you have no one to confide in your hardship, it becomes a burden. Too shy to confide with a counsellor? Seek help with the Samaritans of Singapore. Everyone needs a listening ear. Does not have to have answers to your sadness. It sure is heavy to carry the emotional baggage alone. I had mine off my shoulder years’ ago. Did I shake it off once and for all? No, it is a process. Does it mean I don’t have any challenges anymore? Absolutely not. the difference is, of course, I have learned many ways of handling it. Dealing with it. Still learning. That is OK. Reach out now.
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Mother’s Day
By admin | May 13, 2009
My eldest daughter who is now 20 gave me the most awesome cup that says “World’s Best Mum”. Make my life so happy!
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Day 3 A Journey of Self Discovery to Self Love
By admin | September 8, 2008
Day 3 A Journey of Self Discovery to Self Love
So on day 2, you would have written down either a paragraph, a line or two about one area of your
Life. For example: My business is generating $20,000 a month.
As a guide to know whether this is an inspiring goal, ask yourself these questions:
Is this inspiring?
Is this specific?
Is this achievable?
Is this challenging?
Is this realistic?
The next guide is to have a timeline. When would you like to achieve this goal?
If it is in one year’s time, the following questions to ask yourself again would be:
Is this achievable?
Where am I right now?
What would achieving this goal give me?
If your objective is to get out of your comfort zone and you are really tired of procrastinating and remaining where you are, shortening your time line creates an urgency and help you break down your goal into smaller bites. If you want to achieve your goal in six months’ time; Then I would suggest that you have clarity of your current situation in terms of your business income. Assuming your business income is $10,000 now, it may be possible to double that. The challenge is staying focus and asking yourself better questions.
This is what life coaching is about. When you have a Life Coach, it helps to have someone bounce off ideas, show you your blind spots, explore options and make you accountable for the actions that would lead you towards your goal. A Coach believes in you, support, encourage, motivate, stretch and move your forward to the next level.
Basically, this journey is about unconditioning and reconditioning our way of being. The habits we have that does not serve us. We are too comfortable to want to get out of it. Sometimes, it is because we unconsciously live our lives through the motion. We are unaware there are better ways to get out of status quo. It could also be we are avoiding change. Very few people embrace change because it means they have to do things differently. It could also mean they have to drop some long time friends and change their environment.
If you are one whom you feel can do it alone without engaging a Life Coach, don’t fret. I would come up with some more tips and techniques in my next article for you to continue this journey. Cheers! for now.
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