By admin | June 10, 2010
The interactive talk I gave on Stop Parenting Start Coaching covers a new way of parenting using coaching principles. It was a very interactive group where the question post was, “I know all these theories but I just can’t find myself applying it!” There are many reasons why parents are stuck. KNOWING is easy. There are tons of books out there. And with a click of a button you can have access to all the tips you can find in the internet on parenting.
What really stop most parents, is the fear of working on themselves. It requires courage for us to face our own fears. The step by step process of Stop Parenting Start Coaching Programs enable parents to first become aware of their parenting styles; Their behaviors, their beliefs, their habits and their values.
One tip I gave to parents is to exercise. A parent asked, “Don’t tell me that every time I feel stressed I must go to the gym?” Well, there are many things that one can do, “Swim, listen to positive and inspiring audio on the way home.” “Go to Coffee Bean or Starbucks to unwind with buxom friends.” “Have a fancy ice cream.” “Treat yourself to a SPA, massage or watch a comedy.” Do something you enjoy and have fun!
When was the last time you had fun?
One of the teachers that I learned from is Byron Katie.
She says she realized the cause of her intense suffering and depression “was not the world around her, but the beliefs she’d had about the world.” That was what speaker and spiritual teacher Byron Katie said in her ‘Soul series’ interview with Oprah Winfrey.
I regularly visit Byron Katie’s teachings whenever I am stuck in my communication with my kids. Listening to her audio does help me get out of my disempowering state of mind. I also listen whenever I go jogging which is twice a week now to feel good and to build my fitness and my mind muscle. Getting ready for the next marathon in December!
Start to take care of yourself, your beliefs about the world will change to serve you powerfully. The way to develop parent leadership is to put yourself as the priority. Love yourself.