Updated: Aug 12, 2019
It requires a mindset shift. It's not easy at first, but I can tell you now, sufferings come from the way we think.
When you are upset with someone that is because that person did not live up to your expectations; You might want to let go of thinking of him or her in that certain way. Let them be who they are, we are unique with different personalities.
This pattern of thoughts - the little voice in the head creates a sensation - upsets, anger, displeasure, we tense up, that's where we get triggered and say things we regret. It's a mirror effect. Slow down your thoughts to increase your awareness. Whatever you see out there is a reflection of what is inside you. Only you can manage your emotions. Don't be surprise that we don't have self-acceptance and self-love. Hence, the need to fix others.
That's how we co create the situations unconsciously. When we allow the external to affect our internal, we give away our authentic power. We operate from a place of fear instead of love. Love is accepting people for who they are, not what we want them to be. We are uniquely different.
When you change the way you look at things, the thinks you look at change, Dr Wayne Dyer. It is definitely not easy, but it is a good place to begin with, this is how we manage our emotions and stay grounded. Understand that it's the Universe showing us what we need to learn. Life lessons. People showed up in our life to help us to move from a place of fear to a place of love. Return home, to your heart, the distance between the head and heart is about one foot away - love. Takes time to increase the awareness, the path of least resistance; Robert Fritz, author of The Path of Least Resistance says, "If you limit your choice only to what seems possible or reasonable, you disconnect yourself from what you truly want, and all that is left is a compromise." Process thinking and feeling from fear to love, will get us there.💕