Updated: Aug 12, 2019
As a Life Coach, I am asked by clients for assistance in dealing with personal issues. These range from seeking a better way to connect with one’s own children, to look for more meaningful and fulfilling employment, from wishing to discover one’s passions to doubling one’s income or seeking to be in a committed relationship.
Clients might also hope to discover what they really want in life, or how to get out of a life that is in a downward spiral. I have been asked to help provide choices for those who hated their jobs but loved the pay, and people come to me seeking to boost their self-confidence and to develop a positive attitude.
I have worked on life coaching assignments with a variety of clients: Senior VPs, heads of department, Real Estate Directors, HR Managers, Doctors, Trainers, Consultants, Insurance Managers, Counselors, Parents, Aspiring Coaches, and College Students.
How exactly does the Coach help?
“Setting goals to cover many aspects of my life has allowed me to get a balance which I was previously lacking,” said one client. “Consistent sessions with my coach to do a goals-audit definitely propelled me to phenomenal growth within a short span of 10 months” commented another.
SKILLS AND VALUES
Earning a client’s trust is vital to a Life Coach. One client described the relationship of trust this way: “During the darkest and most vulnerable moments of my life, you had generously shared your spirit of supporting, giving and caring through your coaching profession. You were sensitive in stretching me to realize my strengths and yet balanced with endearing support and tenderness to keep me in momentum.”
Useful skills for a life coach include rapport building, strong active listening, empathy, compassion and trustworthiness. Additional skills may include intuition, inquisitiveness, giving positive feedbacks and being seen by the client as someone who can change his or her life. Life Coaches must also be non-judgmental, totally honest and be able to maintain strict confidentiality.
THE REWARDS OF LIFE COACHING
I feel a deep sense of satisfaction when the people I helped achieved success. This increases my motivation and commitment to my particular line of coaching. As a result, I have gained much self-confidence and inner strength and discovered, along with my clients that simple things found in everyday life can yield great joy and happiness.
I first discovered the benefits of life coaching ten years ago as a client myself, and I learned immensely from the process. That experience taught me how to trust, which deepened my self-beliefs and gave me the freedom to be myself and connect with my inner self. I learned what rapport between two people meant.
This process led to a self-discovery of my own disempowering habits, disempowering beliefs and disempowering thinking that held me back from taking actions to achieve what I had deemed to be out of reach.
I also experienced a mindset shift that allowed me to create new possibilities for myself. I was able to achieve in a single year goals that I had only dreamt of for the previous 5 years; goals that I had never even started to work on. That year of life coaching felt like a life bonus for me and inspired me to become a life coach myself.
ELEMENTS OF LIFE COACHING
A major element in life coaching is shifting the client’s mindset by breaking patterns of disempowering thoughts and replacing them with empowering beliefs which boost confidence levels.
“I am in my early thirties and had been suffering from low self-esteem. I had a problem acknowledging the talents and strengths that I possessed. Being harsh and critical towards myself was a norm,” explained a client with whom I worked for three months. “Now I have begun to gain greater self-awareness and confidence and am actively working towards achieving all my goals. It has never occurred to me that life coaching could be such a transformational journey.”
This transformation can greatly impact clients’ lives and those of their families.
An invaluable experience for any aspiring life coach is to personally engage oneself in life coaching and to understand and appreciate what a personal breakthrough feels like. The other learning experience is to be shown how to explore other areas of one’s life that may have been overlooked.
Having been coached myself, I have also learned to incorporate the power of intuition during coaching, quite a useful tool in the life coach’s toolbox. I now coach more powerfully by asking very probing questions that help my clients discover their real selves, their true inner values, their beliefs and their sense of well-being – all previously hidden within their subconscious.
Basically, a Life Coach supports and encourages the client to forge ahead while maintaining his own accountability.
Mindset Coaching is about shifting the mindset of people to take self-responsibility to develop self-leadership in all areas of their lives; whether it is in education, life, family dynamics, in the workplace or in business.
If you are not happy at work, you will not be happy at home, although many would like to think that they could separate the two.
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