Updated: Jul 31, 2019
1) I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself.
2) I wish I hadn't worked so hard.
3) I wish I had the courage to express my feelings.
4) I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5) I wish I had let myself be happier.
Embrace change, Increase confidence and Celebrate Life!
Life in transition. These 5 regrets is a reminder for me to embrace change, increase my confidence and celebrate life! It has also helped me to make decisions at different stages of my life. I benefit most in the latter part of my life. Better late than never.
In 2018 when I was working, I was living my values and it didn't seemed like work. I looked forward to work everyday and often do beyond my job scope. Unconsciously, I stretched myself too much because it came from the heart. I was on the 'flow'. It was such a great opportunity, how many people could align with the mission of the company they work in? Overworked did not seem to stress me until, there was a change in the strategy of that company. Once the values changed, you could feel it, but you can't see it. Although I did not feel the stress, but my body was showing me signs that I am not in alignment with the changes. The directions and strategies were not the same like before. All I knew was that I was craving for food, junk food that I do not normally eat. Fortunately, I was aware of my eating habit. For almost three months, if I remember correctly, I find myself going to fast food joints to eat. That was really not me.
When there is no alignment of the company's new directions with my personal values, I could feel the incongruence of doing things that does not bring peace to my heart. Unhappy.
The level of awareness is so important, the regular goal setting has helped me stay connected to myself. Hence, it was apparent that I need to make a decision to be true to myself, process my daily actions, reflect, introspect and ask myself questions (coach myself) to calibrate whether I am living a life true to myself. Was I expressing myself through work, and if the majority of the time I spent was in the workplace, feeling unhappy, do I want to pretend? It has affected my health; Finally, an audit of my values and life directions showed that health is most important to me. That was my top value. I decided to resign to heal my body and mind.
I used to watch Oprah Winfrey's TV Talk shows 30 years' ago. Most of the speakers she invited open up my eyes to see things differently, think differently and lately, I begin to practice 'The Law of Atttraction' through Abrahim Esther's youtube. And begin to understand her teachings better and better each day. From thinking to more feeling. And being more aware, I allow things to unfold as I process my inner journey to be true to myself. As I know myself more, I also trust myself. This is a journey in search of alignment with my true self.
It has become a habit that I set goals with my daughter every year-end. As a Life Coach, I set goals that align with my values to get clarity of what I want to focus on moving forward. I can't emphasised enough the importance on aligning your values with your goals. Once you get that clearer, whomever you meet or wish to collaborate or work with, you could easily make decisions which could give you peace of mind and happiness.
This Top 5 Regrets of the dying is a good reminder for us to think and act in alignment with how we feel. Check in on what matters most to us. When you are afraid to get out of comfort zone, let this reminder move you forward into action.
I have been reading, watching Simon Sinek, Jack Ma's, Abrahim Esther's, Bruce Lipton's videos in youtube and find it meaningful and useful. Thanks to them that I learn new knowledge, different and useful ways of moving forward in a fast changing world.
Simon Sinek helped me understand that we need to know our 'Why' we do what we do. Jack Ma is about focussing on his mission and he has been consistent in holding his values close to his heart. If you hear him talk, you will notice his why he do what he do. Bruce Lipton's videos has the art and science of the functionality of our human mind and body. Some thing that I want to learn more of.